Change. The majority of people have something in their lives they wish they could change, from a few pounds gone to a few zeros added to their bank account.
The process on its most basic level is very simple. Whatever you continue to do now has to stop in order for change to take place. The question becomes then, why is change so difficult?
I can only speak on myself, what I have researched and deep down the root becomes we really don’t want to change. We are comfortable with the way things are now. Some people want to quit smoking but not enough to stop them from running back to a cigarette every time life gets a little harder. It is easier to go back to this crutch than it is to face the problem head on and not go back to comfortable behaviors. I have worked with two individuals who smoked for over 40 and over 50 years and one day they said enough is enough, and they quit. Sure it was difficult, when things got stressful, old feelings popped up and they wanted to run outside to have that cigarette but they refused, dealt with the stress and moved on, never touching one.
I am just as guilty when it came to food. Food was my emotional crutch, when I was happy, sad, stressed, whatever; food was there for me, that “friend” helped me climb to over 400lbs.
Then something happened, I had enough and refused to allow food to be anything more than energy for my body to use. I have lost over 100lbs and there are still cravings and familiar feelings when I want to gorge, but I remember the health I want and the long list of activities I want to do that are weight dependent and that helps me avoid temptation.
The same thing can be said for our finances. I know lots of people who want a new car, to own a home instead of renting or who want to open their own business but never have the money to do so. Again, I was no different, before I had put my foot down; I had champagne taste on a water budget. I lived above my means and wished of the life I wanted. Gone were the expensive clothes, gone was eating out a few times a week. Now its regular clothes and we eat at home all the time. I still go out every now and then but that will be for date nights with my wife, not just because it’s Friday.
The change was hard, I like looking and feeling a certain way but my desire to start my own business (done), get out of debt (done) and save up money for my home are way more important to me. I learned and developed techniques to save more than I thought I was capable of and now I want to pass that information on to those who really want to change.
Change can be hard, change can be fun, and change won’t happen until you want it more than what you have now…